I’m currently the breadwinner while my husband finishes law school. It’s been marvelous to have him at home with me and our 7 month daughter. Eventually, he’ll be at a law firm 60 hours a week so I can comfortably be a full time mom. But I think we will both miss his constant presence and I worry that this is less than ideal. I think the notion of less work and more parenting is what I’ve been trying to articulate! Glad I found it here
You touch on an important point: Parenting roles can change based on what's best for the family at the moment. And I think you're right. The more parents can be at home, the better.
Thanks for sharing this! It makes sense to me that something has to give if the woman wants to be the breadwinner. But I hadn't thought of how most women, even if they choose to be the breadwinner, are still attracted to ambitious and not domestic men, which could make the stay-at-home dad arrangement unrealistic.
I’m currently the breadwinner while my husband finishes law school. It’s been marvelous to have him at home with me and our 7 month daughter. Eventually, he’ll be at a law firm 60 hours a week so I can comfortably be a full time mom. But I think we will both miss his constant presence and I worry that this is less than ideal. I think the notion of less work and more parenting is what I’ve been trying to articulate! Glad I found it here
You touch on an important point: Parenting roles can change based on what's best for the family at the moment. And I think you're right. The more parents can be at home, the better.
Love it, and thanks for the shout out!
I think you’ll find this post on men “leaning out” interesting. See the comments also for some important critiques.
https://www.fullstackeconomics.com/p/im-a-professional-dad-who-leaned
Thanks for sharing this! It makes sense to me that something has to give if the woman wants to be the breadwinner. But I hadn't thought of how most women, even if they choose to be the breadwinner, are still attracted to ambitious and not domestic men, which could make the stay-at-home dad arrangement unrealistic.